Author: Rev. Cecil Thorn

As Christians, teaching our children about God’s plan for us and His love in a world that includes LGBTQ+ individuals requires sensitivity, understanding, and a commitment to biblical principles. Here are some suggestions for approaching this topic with your children:

1. Establish a foundation of God’s love:

Emphasize that God loves all people, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Teach your children about the unconditional love God has for everyone and how we are called to love others as He loves us.

The foundation of God’s love is a central theme in Christianity. The Bible is filled with verses that speak about God’s love and its significance in our lives. Here are some Scripture references that highlight God’s love:

1. John 3:16 (NIV):: “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”

   – This verse emphasizes the immense love of God, who sent His Son Jesus Christ to die for the salvation of humanity.

2. Romans 5:8 (NIV):: “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

   – This verse reveals that God’s love is not dependent on our goodness or worthiness. Even in our sinful state, God demonstrated His love by sending Jesus to die for us.

3. 1 John 4:9-10 (NIV):: “This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”

   – These verses highlight the sacrificial nature of God’s love. God took the initiative to send Jesus as a sacrifice for our sins, enabling us to have a relationship with Him.

4. Ephesians 2:4-5 (NIV):: “But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”

   – Here, we see that God’s love is accompanied by His mercy and grace. He offers salvation to us, not because of our own merits, but because of His great love.

5. 1 John 4:16 (NIV):: “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and anyone who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in them.”

   – This verse emphasizes that God is love itself. When we abide in love, we are dwelling in God’s presence and experiencing His love.

These verses provide a foundation for understanding God’s love and serve as a starting point for exploring the depth and breadth of His love throughout the Bible.

• Age-appropriate discussions:

Tailor your discussions to the age and maturity level of your children. Younger children may need simpler explanations, focusing on concepts like acceptance and inclusion, while older children can engage in deeper discussions about human sexuality and biblical teachings.

Certainly! Incorporating scripture references can provide a strong foundation for discussing God’s love with different age groups. Here are some age-appropriate scripture references to complement the discussions:

Preschool (Ages 3-5):

1. “God is love.” – 1 John 4:8 (NIV): (Keep it simple and repeat this verse to emphasize God’s love.)

2. “We love because he first loved us.” – 1 John 4:19 (NIV): (Highlighting that God’s love initiates our ability to love others.)

Elementary School (Ages 6-11):

1. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16 (NIV): (Discuss God’s sacrificial love by explaining how Jesus came to save us.)

2. “See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God!” – 1 John 3:1 (NIV): (Emphasize how God’s love makes us part of His family.)

Teenagers (Ages 12-18):

1. “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” – Romans 5:8 (NIV): (Discuss God’s unconditional love and grace through Jesus’ sacrifice.)

2. “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword?” – Romans 8:35 (NIV): (Highlight God’s enduring love and reassurance during difficult times.)

Remember, it’s important to explain these verses in a way that is relatable and understandable to each age group.

• Teach biblical principles:

Share the biblical teachings on relationships, marriage, and sexuality with your children. Explain that the Bible presents a view of marriage as a sacred union between a man and a woman. However, also emphasize that we should not judge or mistreat others based on their sexual orientation or gender identity.

Certainly! Here are some biblical principles with corresponding scripture references:

1. Love and Compassion:

   – Matthew 22:37-39 (NIV): – “Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all our soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'”

2. Integrity and Honesty:

   – Proverbs 11:3 (NIV): – “The integrity of the upright guides them, but the unfaithful are destroyed by their duplicity.”

   – Psalm 25:21 – “May integrity and uprightness protect me because my hope, Lord, is in you.”

3. Forgiveness and Reconciliation:

   – Ephesians 4:32 (NIV): – “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

   – Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV): – “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

4. Humility and Servanthood:

   – Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV): – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”

   – Matthew 20:26-28 (NIV): – “Whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave—just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

5. Faith and Trust in God:

   – Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV): – “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

   – Hebrews 11:1 (NIV): – “Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.”

These scripture references highlight some of the key biblical principles, but there are many more throughout the Bible that provide guidance and wisdom for living a godly life.

• Promote empathy and respect:

Encourage your children to treat all individuals with kindness, empathy, and respect, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. Teach them to stand against discrimination, bullying, or mistreatment of any kind.

One scripture reference that promotes empathy and respect is found in the Bible, in the book of Matthew 7:12 (NIV)::

“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.”

This verse is commonly known as the Golden Rule and encourages treating others with empathy, kindness, and respect. It teaches us to consider how we would like to be treated and to extend the same treatment to others. By following this principle, we can foster a culture of empathy and respect, understanding the value and worth of every individual.

• Encourage dialogue and questions:

Create an open and safe space for your children to ask questions and express their thoughts and feelings. This will help them process the information and develop their own understanding while fostering a healthy relationship with you as their parent.

As a parent, creating an open and safe space for your children to ask questions and express their thoughts and feelings is essential for their growth and development. Here’s a scripture reference that encourages dialogue and open communication within the family:

Proverbs 2:1-5 (NIV):

“My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding— indeed, if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.”

This verse highlights the importance of seeking wisdom and understanding, which can be applied to fostering a safe and open environment for your children. Encouraging them to seek knowledge, ask questions, and engage in dialogue helps them develop critical thinking skills and a deeper understanding of themselves and their faith.

• Address cultural influences:

Recognize that your children may encounter differing views on sexuality and gender in society. Take the opportunity to discuss these perspectives within the context of your Christian beliefs, emphasizing the importance of seeking truth in God’s Word.

Recognizing that your children may encounter differing views on sexuality and gender in society is an important aspect of parenting. Here are a few scripture references that can help guide your conversations and discussions on this topic:

1. Romans 12:2 (NIV):

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.”

This verse reminds us that as Christians, we should not simply conform to the patterns and beliefs of the world around us. Instead, we are called to renew our minds and seek God’s will in all areas of our lives, including our understanding of sexuality and gender.

2. Genesis 1:27 (NIV):

“So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.”

This verse emphasizes the fundamental truth that God created humanity as male and female, each bearing His image. It provides a foundation for discussing God’s design and purpose in gender and sexuality.

3. Ephesians 5:31-32 (NIV):

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”

These verses highlight the sacredness of marriage as the union between a man and a woman, reflecting the relationship between Christ and the Church. It provides an opportunity to discuss God’s plan for marriage and the significance of gender complementarity.

It’s important to approach these discussions with love, respect, and empathy, recognizing that individuals may have differing perspectives. Encouraging your children to seek God’s guidance, study His Word, and engage in open dialogue will help them navigate the cultural influences they encounter while staying grounded in their faith.

• Community Seek guidance from your faith:

If you have concerns or need further guidance on addressing this topic, consult with your church leaders, pastors, or Christian counselors. They can provide additional resources, support, and insights from a biblical perspective.

Remember that teaching about God’s love and His plan for us should always be rooted in compassion, understanding, and respect for all individuals. By demonstrating love and embracing the teachings of Christ, we can guide our children to navigate the complexities of the world with grace and understanding.

1. Identify your faith community: Determine which faith community aligns with your beliefs and values. This could be a local place of worship, a religious organization, or an online community centered around your faith.

2. Connect with religious leaders: Reach out to religious leaders within your faith community, such as priests, pastors, imams, rabbis, or spiritual mentors. They are often well-versed in the teachings and principles of the faith and can provide guidance based on their knowledge and experience.

3. Attend religious services or gatherings: Participate in religious services, ceremonies, or gatherings within your faith community. These events often provide opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals who may offer insights or support.

4. Seek counsel from fellow community members: Engage in discussions with other members of your faith community who have experience or knowledge in the area of concern. They may be able to provide advice, share personal experiences, or direct you to relevant resources.

5. Consult sacred texts and teachings: Explore the sacred texts, scriptures, or teachings of your faith. These sources often contain guidance and wisdom on a wide range of topics. Reflect on relevant passages and consider how they apply to your situation.

6. Utilize online resources: Many faith communities maintain websites, forums, or online platforms where you can find resources, ask questions, or seek guidance. These digital spaces can connect you with a broader community and offer access to religious teachings and discussions.

Remember that seeking guidance from a faith community is a personal decision, and the availability and nature of guidance may vary depending on the specific faith tradition. It’s important to approach your faith community with an open mind, respect differing perspectives, and consider the guidance provided in relation to your own values and beliefs.

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